How do you set up a honeymoon fund?
On your honeymoon registry site, youâll be able to share details about what youâre planning, such as your destination, where youâll stay, and what sort of activities you want to try. Guests can contribute toward specific items. For example, they could give you the beachfront candlelight dinner youâre dreaming of, or a fun local tour you want to take, or a nightâs stay at your honeymoon hotel.
The more details you can provide on your honeymoon registry, the better. Telling friends and family all about your wish list will help them feel like theyâre part of the experience, and it will give them a variety of choices as to what they can purchaseâjust like a traditional wedding gift registry would.
You can also set up a âhoneymoon fund boxâ at your wedding reception that your guests can place checks, cash, or gift cards inside. If you choose to do this, youâll want to be sure guests know about it in advance; just include that information on your wedding website. Wedding showers are also a good time to do this; be sure that the shower invitation tells guests about it.
There are all sorts of ideas available online for designing your honeymoon fund box; you can customize it to match your wedding colors, or to showcase your honeymoon destination. A honey fund box is a fun opportunity to get creative and could be a nice project to work on together before the wedding.
Honeymoon Fund Etiquette
How do you ask for money as a wedding gift? Very carefully. Be polite, be gracious, and follow good etiquette.
While itâs OK to ask for financial contributions instead of gifts for your wedding, itâs not OK to ask for them on your wedding invitation. The only appropriate places to mention your honeymoon fund are your wedding website, shower invitations, and via word of mouth.
You can also include honeymoon fund information on invitations to wedding showers, such as bridal showers and couplesâ showers.
What do you say in a honeymoon fund?
Are you wondering, what should I write in my honeymoon fund? Here are some honeymoon fund wording tips that will help you communicate your wishes politely and effectively.
Your honeymoon fund wording should be personal and authentic. In other words, it should sound like you. If youâre a formal person, use formal language. If youâre not, phrase it informally.
Honeymoon Fund Wording Examples
Here are some honeymoon fund wording examples.
Short and simple honeymoon fund wording examples:
We canât wait to celebrate with you on our wedding day. Weâre planning a honeymoon to [destination here]; if youâd like to help us get there by contributing to our honeymoon fund, weâd be grateful! You can find our honeymoon registry at [URL here].
Here are some additional honeymoon registry wording samples:
As we look forward to celebrating our wedding with you, we realize we have all the âstuffâ we need to start our lives together. What we want most of all is to create memorable experiences on our honeymoon. You can help us by contributing toward our dream trip to [destination name here]. You can find our honeymoon fund registry at [URL here] and choose what part of our trip youâd like to be part of!
Saying Thank You for Honeymoon Fund Contributions
Not only can you be creative in asking for contributions to your honeymoon fund, you can also be creative in showing your gratitude!
If a guest donates toward or purchases a specific experience, take a picture during it and include it in the thank-you note once you get home. If they contributed toward a general fund or something like your airfare, you could just share a picture from the trip. That way, theyâll get to see what a wonderful memory they helped create!
Do use a cash registry website
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Honeyfund is an excellent option for couples who want to focus on a honeymoon registry. It offers gift ideas that are focused on your honeymoon plans.
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Zola incorporates a honeymoon fund, traditional registry items, and cash, so there's a bit more flexibility for gifting.
Don't ask for cash on your wedding invitation
You can be antsy to make sure everyone knows your wishes and share registry sites here but don't. Keep your wedding invitation for basic information like location, time, and RSVP information. Asking for cash on a wedding invitation is the definition of putting the cart before the horse.
Don't leave off a traditional gift registry
Some guests won't be on board with the cash wedding registry and will still wish to provide you with linen, kitchen appliances, or platesâmake sure it's from a store that you like and include the best options for them (and you). The Knot has some great inspo if you find yourself wondering what items to include.
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Do let loved ones know you prefer a cash wedding registry over physical gifts
It can help when your bridal party understands what your goals are. Ask them to share your desire for cash gifts openly. It doesn't hurt to also ask the most reliable (and creative) member of your wedding party to make or source a pretty collection box for the cards and envelopes at your wedding reception.
Don't ask for a cash registry for showers and events leading up to the wedding day
While it can be nice to have cash coming in as early as possible, it's our advice that you either graciously accept whatever gifts youâre given at the showers or organize an event in lieu of gifts altogether. This can be anything from a spa day to a ski weekend where the memories of a great day organized by your friends becomes the gift itself..
Of course, you want to be mindful of your guests when including a cash wedding registry. Part of this etiquette is helping your guests understand any credit card processing fees or transaction fees before they contribute. Some wedding registry websites will provide you with the option to absorb the cost, and that can feel like a good enough compromise for some of your more frugal wedding guests.
Make receiving gifts easy!
Always remember that while your cash registry may be your preference, it's always best to show gratitude and grace to your wedding guests, opting to be a part of your big day. With flexible return policies, there's really no real need to fret or micromanage your wedding registry. Check the Lovecast blog for practical tips and ideas on how to make the most of a beautiful and stress-free wedding day.
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While it helps to express your desires tactfully, be prepared to accept whatever comes your wayâespecially since the real gift is a lifelong partnership with your favorite person.
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Mention both names.
When writing wedding wishes, the most important thing to remember is to make out the card to both members of the couple. "If you know the bride, donât make the mistake of addressing something very personal to just her," says Meier. "Now that she is married, the contents of the card should be relevant to both of the newlyweds."
Make sure it's not generic.
Always include a note beyond what is pre-written on the inside. "Never just sign your name under a Hallmark message," says Meier. "If youâre short on words, say that in your writing. Try: âI found this card, and these words were exactly how I felt.â That gives added emphasis to the card itself."
Be careful with humor.
Sarcasm on paper can be hard to read without a smiley face or exclamation point. Avoid topics that could be sensitive to the couple, such as money or length of the relationship, and, though it should go without saying: no divorce jokes.
Get personal.
The better you know them, the more personal the card can be. Go with a memory that involves the couple. Sign-offs can be full of love; Meierâs favorites include: "XOXO," "Elated for you," "Over the moon for you," and "Madly in love with you two."
Bring your card to the ceremony.
You should never show up to someoneâs home without a token of appreciation for being hosted, and the same goes for weddings. "Itâs a nice gesture that shows gratitude for being invited," Meier says. This remains true even if youâve already sent a gift to the couplesâ home or contributed to a honeymoon fund. "I would write in the card: âWe hope you enjoy the gift we sent to your home,â" says Meier. That way, youâre tactfully acknowledging that a gift accompanied your card.
Hand it to the right person.
If, upon arrival at the ceremony, you do not see a gift station or card box, seek out the wedding planner or venue manager. Theyâll ferry your card to the bridal suite or another designated place for safe-keeping. No event professional on hand? Give your card to one of the fathers of the couple, or the best man. "The reason has nothing to do with gender," Meier says. "Itâs about what they would be wearing. They would likely have a suit with pockets, whereas the mothers or maid of honor likely have a tiny evening purse or no pockets at all."
Go with a check, not cash.
Planning on including a monetary gift with your card? "If cash gets misplaced, thatâs it," says Meier. "But if you give a check, you can track it. If you see, two months after the wedding, that the check has not been cashed, you can make sure the couple received it."
Send one even if you can't attend.
If youâre invited to the wedding but unable to attend, feel free to mail your card anytime between when you receive your invitation and a few weeks after the big day. Thereâs no real-time limit on telling a couple how happy you are for them.
Wedding Card Examples
Unsure of what to say when it comes to specific relationships? Here are some specific guidelines from Meier of what to write in a wedding card.
For a Couple You Don't Know Well
Dear [Couple's Names],
Congratulations on your wedding day. I wish you a lifetime of health and happiness.
Best regards,
[Your Name(s)]
For a Co-Worker or Employee
Dear [Couple's Names],
Thank you for inviting me to share in this special day! May your marriage be filled with success and happiness.
Best wishes,
[Your Name(s)]
You donât have to be professional in verbiage, but keep things more formal. Avoid "love" in your sign-off, even if you are close. "May you live happily ever after," "Wishing you endless love and happiness," and "Wishing you happiness and health," works perfectly here.
For a Religious Couple
Dear [Couple's Names],
Many prayers for a happy and healthy union. May God bless you and grant you all of lifeâs joys together.
With love,
[Your Name(s)]
For a Close Friend
Dear [Couple's Names],
I should have known the first time I caught you playing footsie underneath the table in our college cafeteria that weâd end up here one day. From late-night library sessions to even later-night McDonaldâs runs, itâs been such a joy adventuring through life with you these past seven years. Hereâs to seventy more.
XOXO,
[Your Name(s)]
For a Sibling
To the newlywedsâ
Iâll never forget that first Thanksgiving when Everett let his new girlfriend take the last slice of pumpkin pie without complaining. I knew something was different then, and now, here we are! Lindsey, youâve been like a sister to me these past few years, and today, I couldnât be happier to officially call you my sister-in-law. Welcome to the family! Iâm so happy for you both.
Love and congratulations,
[Your Name(s)]
For a Child
[Couple's Names],
The greatest hope a parent has for their child is that they find a partner to travel through life with. Today, my daughter/son gains that partner and I gain a son/daughter. What a wonderful moment for our family, and for the one that you two have now begun. May everything that comes next be as filled with joy as this day is.
All my love,
Mom and/or Dad