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As exhilarating as it is to be newly engaged, it can be all too easy to get swept up in the wedding planning process and lose sight of what those endless checklists are actually about: celebrating the love between you and your partner. But with that celebration and planning will eventually come the need to dive into your vows, whether you're writing your own or opting for an officiant's help. Either way, including a romantic quote is a great way to spark inspiration and truly express your love for your spouse.

How to Incorporate Quotes Into Your Vows

The perfect quote might just be the thing you need to dive in on your vows. "Reading through love-focused quotes can sometimes be the nudge that someone needs to start expressing themselves in a certain way," says wedding officiant Bethel Nathan. "Or sometimes it can give them the needed words around which they can build their vows." Consider these tips if you're thinking about incorporating a quote into your own vows:

• Select a quote that's authentic and meaningful to you.

• Choose a quote that truly relates back to your relationship.

• Don't worry too much about whether all of your guests will understand the selected quote.

Meet the Expert

• Bethel Nathan is a wedding officiant specializing in ceremonies for couples who are non-traditional and often non-religious. Nathan has owned and operated Ceremonies by Bethel since 2009.

• Alisa Tongg is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant and a graduate of the Celebrant Institute and Foundation. Tongg specializes in non-denominational, intercultural, interfaith, and secular wedding ceremonies.

According to Nathan, it's all about finding a fluid way to incorporate the quote, weaving it into the ceremony in an authentic way. "Making your vows real, showing true appreciation for what this person adds to your life and what you promise to do in return, are the keys to moving, impactful, and memorable vows," she says.

Ready to find the perfect quote to incorporate into your vows? Here are 101 of our favorites.

About Love

A quote about love is the perfect way to include a simple expression and to add meaningful prose into your vows. "Because the vows are typically the only time during a wedding ceremony where a couple is actually speaking, it's important that every word a bride or groom says in ceremony feels authentic and natural," says celebrant Alisa Tongg.

• "In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine." — Maya Angelou

• "Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without." — William Parrish

• "Do I love you? My god, if your love were a grain of sand, mine would be a universe of beaches." — William Goldman, The Princess Bride

• "If I know what love is, it is because of you." — Herman Hesse, Narcissus and Goldmund

• "I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you." — Elizabeth Barrett Browning

• "You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." — Dr. Seuss

• "Love seems the swiftest but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century." — Mark Twain

• "Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within." — James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time

• "Love is the thing that is always having the last word—even when those words are 'I'm sorry,' or 'Forgive me,' or 'I love you no matter what.'" — Cleo Wade

• "I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you directly, without problems or pride: I love you like this because I don't know any other way to love, except in this form in which I am not nor are you, so close that your hand upon my chest is mine, so close that your eyes close with my dreams." — Pablo Neruda, One Hundred Love Sonnets: XVII

• "You are the love that came without warning; you had my heart before I could say no." — Unknown 

• "The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more. That plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.” — Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

• "For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul." — Judy Garland

• "How in hell can you handle love without turning your life upside down? That’s what love does, it changes everything." — Lauren Bacall

• "I have for the first time found what I can truly love. I have found you.” — Charlotte Bronte, Jane Eyre

• "Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get—only with what you are expecting to give—which is everything." — Katharine Hepburn

• "Loving you never was an option. It was a necessity." — Truth Devour, Unrequited

Once you've chosen a quote to incorporate into your vows, pair it with a real-life example pointing back to your relationship to make it relevant.

Inspirational

An inspirational quote is a great option for someone hoping to include a quote that's both meaningful and uplifting. "If you find yourself nodding as you read one, that is definitely a quote to consider using!" says Nathan.

• "To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow—this is a human offering that can border on miraculous." — Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

• "Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile." — Elizabeth Barrett Browning

• "It is love that makes the impossible, possible." — Indian proverb

• "One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." — Sophocles

• "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, While loving someone deeply gives you courage." — Lao Tzu

Romantic

Who says you can't incorporate a quote that dives a little deeper into romance? Romantic quotes are perfect for the person who really wants to make a statement.

• "I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart). I am never without it (anywhere I go you go, my dear; and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling)." — E. E. Cummings, I Carry Your Heart With Me

• "You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope...I have loved none but you." — Jane Austen, Persuasion

• "If I had a flower for every time I thought of you...I could walk through my garden forever." — Alfred Lord Tennyson

• "And I’d choose you; in a hundred lifetimes, in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find you and I’d choose you." — Kiersten White, The Chaos of Stars

•  "For all the things my hands have held, the best by far is you." ― Andrew McMahon in the Wilderness

• "I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone." — J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings

• "They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered." — F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise

• "Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are." — Oscar Wilde

• "To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves." — Federico García Lorca, Blood Wedding and Yerma

• "The very essence of romance is uncertainty." ― Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

• "I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone." — J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings

• "My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep; the more I give to thee, the more I have, for both are infinite." — Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

• "Yours is the light by which my spirit’s born: you are my sun, my moon, and all my stars." — E.E. Cummings, You are My Sun, My Moon, and All My Stars

• "If you live to be 100, I hope I live to be 100 minus one day, so I never have to live without you." — Ernest H. Shepard

• "You have made a place in my heart where I thought there was no room for anything else. You have made flowers grow where I cultivated dust and stones." — Robert Jordan, The Shadow Rising

• "You make me happier than I ever thought I could be and if you let me, I will spend the rest of my life trying to make you feel the same way." — Chandler, proposing to Monica on Friends

• "He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began." — Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

• "I was made and meant to look for you and wait for you and become yours forever." ― Robert Browning, Pauline: The Fragment of a Confession

Poetic

Adding a few lines from your favorite poem is a great way to incorporate a meaningful quote. Lines of a poem, lyrics of a song, or even quotes from a movie can be easy to relate to. "Just that little phrase from a favorite song or poem or movie, is enough to bring with it a treasure chest of other feelings, promises, memories, and hopes for the future," says Tongg.

• "What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strengthen each other in all labour, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?" — George Eliot, Adam Bede

• "Doubt thou the stars are fire, Doubt the sun doth move, Doubt truth to be a liar but never doubt thy love." — William Shakespeare, Hamlet

• "I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach." — Elizabeth Barret Browning, How Do I Love Thee?

• "Love starts as a feeling,
But to continue is a choice;
And I find myself choosing you
More and more every day." — Justin Wetch, Bending The Universe

• "Love at the lips was touch
As sweet as I could bear;
And once that seemed too much;
I lived on air." — Robert Frost, To Earthward

• "Love
Is a ripe plum
Growing on a purple tree.
Taste it once
And the spell of its enchantment
Will never let you be." — Langston Hughes, A Love Song for Lucinda

• "...Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wand'ring bark,
Whose worth is unknown, although his height be taken." — William Shakespeare, Sonnet 116

• "Our love will bloom always fairer,
Fresher, more gracious,
Because it is a true love" — Honoré de Balzac

• "Grow old along with me; the best is yet to be." — Robert Browning, Rabbi Ben Ezra

When searching for the right quote to incorporate into your vows, look to books, movies, or even songs that you and your partner both love.

Simple

A one-liner can certainly go a long way. Many of these simple quotes can be used as a jumping-off point, helping to flesh out the vows you may be writing on your own.

• "Love is like a friendship caught on fire." — Jeremy Taylor

• "There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage." — Martin Luther

• "For the two of us, home isn't a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.” ― Stephanie Perkins, Anna and the French Kiss

• "I can conquer the world with one hand, as long as you’re holding the other." — Unknown

• "The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." — Audrey Hepburn

• "When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too." — Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

• "You don't marry the person you can live with—you marry the person you can't live without." — Unknown

• "The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now." — Rick Warren

• "I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow." — Leo Christopher

• "Thinking of you keeps me awake. Dreaming of you keeps me asleep. Being with you keeps me alive." — Unknown

• "You are my heart, my life, my one and only thought." — Arthur Conan Doyle, The White Company

• "A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you." — Unknown

• "My love for you is a journey, starting at forever and ending at never." — Unknown

• "There is only one happiness in life: To love and be loved." — George Sand

• "Those who don't believe in magic, will never find it." — Roald Dahl

• "A life without love is like a year without summer." — Lithuanian proverb

• "Who, being loved, is poor?" — Oscar Wilde, A Woman of No Importance

• "You're something between a dream and a miracle." — Elizabeth Barret Browning

• "Where there is love there is life." — Ghandi

• "The water shines only by the sun. And it is you who are my sun." — Charles de Leusse

• "I look at you and see the rest of my life in front of my eyes." — Unknown

• "You are every lovely word I could think of." — Unknown

Playful

If you're planning to keep your ceremony a bit lighter, incorporating a playful quote may be the ideal complement. If you do plan to incorporate something a bit more playful, check with your partner to decide how serious you both want the ceremony to be.

• "If I get married, I want to be very married." — Audrey Hepburn

• "May this marriage be full of laughter, our every day in paradise." — Rumi

• "Romance is the icing, but love is the cake." — Unknown

• "Great love affairs start with champagne..." — Honoré de Balzac

• "Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat." — Joanne Woodward

Religious

A religious quote can be a powerful inclusion for many couples, pulling lines that have relevance to the relationship, focus on faith, or provide guidance for a successful marriage.

• "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." — 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

• "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” — Matthew 19:6

• "And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." — Colossians 3:14

• "Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law." — Romans 13:8

• "Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life." — Psalm 143:8

• "I found the one my heart loves." — Song of Solomon 3:4

• "Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” — John 3:18

• "Two are better than one." — Ecclesiastes 4:9

• "Follow the way of love." — 1 Corinthians 14:1

About Partnership

Celebrate what you're about to become with these quotes. Incorporating a quote about the bond of marriage or partnership is a great way to add depth to your vows while focusing on your best friend for life.

• "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person." — Mignon McLaughlin

• "The great marriages are partnerships. It can’t be a great marriage without being a partnership." — Helen Mirren

• "I would not wish any companion in the world but you." — Shakespeare, The Tempest

• "People are weird. When we find someone with weirdness that is compatible with ours, we team up and call it love." — Dr. Seuss

• "The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace." — Fawn Weaver

• "The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they’re right if you love to be with them all the time." — Julia Child

• "Remember, we all stumble; every one of us. That is why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand." — Emily Kimbrough

• "Walking with your hands in mine and mine in yours, that’s exactly where I want to be always." — Fawn Weaver

• "Love is not about staring at each other, but staring off in the same direction."
— Antoine de Saint Exupéry

• "Being married is like having somebody permanently in your corner. It feels limitless, not limited." — Gloria Steinem

• "It's amazing how one day someone walks into your life, and suddenly, you can't remember how you lived without them." — Anurag Prakash Ray

• "Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team: when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score. Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work." — Michelle Obama

• "To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness." — Robert Brault



1. Your Reason Why

One of the very first things you want to write is your reason for loving your partner unconditionally and your reason for wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. It sounds like a mushy way to start the letter, but it’s a great way to begin your wedding day. Your partner can spend a couple of minutes basking in all of the reasons why you feel committed, confident, and connected to them.

2. Your Hope for the Day

One thing that’s certain about the wedding day is that it will fly by fast. Include a part about how you hope the day will go and what you look forward to doing together. Maybe your biggest hope is that you both get to enjoy every bite of the food and a slice, or two, of cake, or you’re most looking forward to your first dance (that you practiced close to 20 times in your living room). Either way, share some of your hopes for the wedding day so that your partner can look forward to the fun ahead.

3. Your Promise for the Future

As your partner reads the letter you wrote on the morning of your wedding, one part they’ll look forward to is what you share about your promises for the future. Some of those promises might be saved for the vows you read during the ceremony, but in the letter, go wild with some promises that are laugh-out-loud funny, such as letting them watch Sunday and Monday night football.

4. Your “I Fell in Love” Memory

Remember the moment you knew the person you’re marrying was the one for you? Perhaps, it was on a specific date, after something they said, or because of an accumulation of things that happened over time. Recalling those memories brings the beauty of your relationship to the surface and lets you walk into the wedding day treating your partner to a spectacle of moments when your love first sparked and how much it has grown and flourished since then.

5. Your Proudest Moment

A great way to end the letter is with a moment or two when you felt the proudest of your partner. Perhaps it was after they achieved a major life accomplishment or when they found themselves closer to conquering a life-long dream. Sharing a time when they inspired you, motivated you, or just made you feel like you’re with the kind of person that’s going to push you toward working hard for the things in life you desperately want is a wonderful way to breathe a final bit of energy into the note.

Tips for Writing a Wedding Letter to Your Partner

Writing is easiest when all conditions are right. Here are some tips for creating a letter that'll be read over and over again.

Speak From Your Heart and Include Little Details

"The best thing is to be open, honest, and speak from your heart," Greer advises. "Tell your partner how much you love them and especially why you love them and what makes them so special, exceptional, and important to you."

Keep in mind that no detail is too small to include. You and your partner love each other for specific reasons. Embrace every reason, big or small, and add it to your letter for a note written straight from the heart.

Make a List of Everything You Want to Include

If you write down everything you want to include at the start, you won't accidentally leave anything out. According to Greer, some of the things to consider including are how thrilled you are to be starting your life together, how happy you are to have found a soulmate with whom to share your life journey, and how delighted you are that your partner made you their choice and the love and commitment they have found in you.

Take Note Whenever You Think of Something You Want to Say

Inspiration can strike at any time, whether you're in the grocery store, getting a manicure, or jogging on a treadmill. If something pops into your head that you just have to say to your partner, make a note in your phone (or handwrite it in a notebook) so you won't forget when you actually set about the task of writing.

Set Aside a Quiet Time to Complete the Letter

When you write the letter is up to you, but whenever you do it, make sure to give yourself the time and space to write it. "The night before or the morning of could both work," says Greer. "Sometimes, it can be smart to do it ahead of time so it doesn't get lost in the hustle and bustle of the day."

Put your phone away and set aside time to focus on this as your only task, giving it your full attention without any interruptions from others. Writing a heartfelt letter requires peace and quiet.

Real Examples of Wedding Letters

Want to see how a few real couples shared their feelings with their wedding letters? Here are actual letters from five brides who share the loving words they had for their partners on the big day.

Bailey and Eric from Ojai, California

Dearest Eric,

The day that seemed like a fantasy existing in some far-off place has finally arrived and...we’re doing this! We’re getting married. I’ve been taking really slow and long breaths all morning trying to slow down the day. I’ve been trying to notice every detail in what the air smells and feels like, what music is playing, what people are saying, what the ocean feels like. I want every detail of today to be ingrained in my spirit.

You’re surfing right now, and I’m sitting with our family on the sand bordering a tide pool on Playa Escondida. The girls and I were just swimming and we were caught in a rip. They were nervous, and I was tired as we struggled to figure out which way to swim to get out, but I knew nothing bad would happen. The wedding Gods are on our side today. Right?!

Our little dude is digging in the sand next to me as I write this, singing a song about ice cream robots and offering me the occasional sand pie. He’s happy.

I was worried that this day would feel like any other, like it might let me down because I had built it up so much in my mind. But, it seems to be crafting itself to perfectly suit our needs—happy people, big waves, a little shower right when it was getting too hot, and you and I nearing the moment where we’ll solidify our commitment with well thought out words and a ceremony blessed by all the people who love us. Oh, and tequila! This day has also given us tequila.

I feel excitement in my stomach and serenity in my heart as 4 p.m. tiptoes closer. I’m ready to keep loving you, today, and for all the others.

Love,

Your Almost Wife (Bailey)

Josie and Jessy from Knoxville, Tennessee

My Sweet Jessy,

First off, I want you to know that I love you so much. I have imagined this day since I was a little girl and it is finally here. The big day, I should be nervous and anxious but I find myself calm and at peace. I think it's because I know that no matter what happens today, by the end of it we will be married.

I remember as a little girl, dad saying to marry a man that loves me and protects me. I am so thankful that you go above and beyond this. I love how you never let me open a car door, that you cook for me, but most importantly I love that you put God before me, that you make sure He is number one in our lives.

I love you, you are my soulmate, and I will love you even through football season, forever a coach’s wife. I am so excited for this adventure that we begin today and to call you my husband.

See you at the altar,

Josie (your pumpkin)

Erin and Shawn from Carmel, California

Dear Shawn,

Caring for you is something I look forward to. For the rest of my life, being your wife. To have and to hold, until we get old—that's our love story I want told. So it's with a loving heart, I give you this gift to start, these "In Case You Get Cold Feet" socks are for you. I even ordered them in your favorite NFL team hue. I can't wait to be your wife and vow 'I do' to you.

I love you!

Erin

Casey and Justin from Boston, Massachusetts

Justin,

Right now you're standing on the other side of the door from me, inches and minutes from joining as husband and wife. I can't help but think over everything, the good and bad, that has gotten us to this exact moment (...) The first few months in our apartment when we both had to pretend we weren't terrified to be adults, and being responsible for keeping something alive: Pax. Then moving into the condo and having something actually worth cleaning, and realizing the cat we thought was hard to keep alive was a cakewalk compared to Zuri. We've been on trips, gotten into car accidents, had nights we couldn't get enough of each other, and nights we couldn't get far enough away from one another. We've had so many adventures together and today is our biggest one yet. I can't wait to see what other adventures life has in store for us. I hope your gifts help get us there. I love you more and more every day, so much sometimes I think my heart will explode. And to think...it all started with a beer.

Forever Yours,

Your Wife

Matt and Emily from Los Angeles, California

Dear Matt,

You are my love, my light, and my future. I can't imagine marrying anyone other than you, and as we join together on this day I feel 100% confident in this match. There's no one else on earth I'd rather share my life with, and I'm so excited to be your wife. I have no doubts. I've known since the first time you kissed me that you were going to be mine forever. You are my one true love.

I didn't believe in soulmates until I met you, but then you came along and changed everything. I thought life was good before you came along, but since we've been together I've been happier than I even thought was possible. You make me content. You even cured my previously insatiable need to wander and travel. As I roamed from country to country, I was looking for a home. I found it in you.

I promise to love you every day for the rest of my life, even when it gets hard. But knowing us, it's going to be way more good times than bad and way more smiles than tears. I am so thankful for you. You aren't just the man of my dreams—you're the man beyond my wildest dreams.

Thank you for asking me to be your wife.

Love,

Emily



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