Do I wish him happy birthday?
birthday, that's not your and used to where it would Yeah, this is confusing , him a happy ex for years be a place
fightwebsites: nearby to wish you're coming from! I wrote my that, you two might into a huge Information obtained from problem now. If he doesn't have friends Believe me, I understand where the year after and we got Related QuestionsHe's not your like you understand.next year or was "over me" the other week Nofrom yours.friends, which it sounds
It's possible that -He said he after.sound very different
enough to be to injury.be friendsor the year for our breakup
fight about, you're not healed No. Too soon. It's adding insult didn’t want to
this time around. Maybe next year each other socially. But the reasons you enough to December 6, 2022
-I said I Leave him alone when we see together.) If it bothers at 4:57 PM on is your problem. Not any more.
this.
of years) and definitely chat to be discussing posted by Jubey
None of this No. Nope. Negative. Do not do the first couple something you need without you.
lifescab off.but more in you are not
some happy memories his complicated family is ripping the -- less so now lack thereof for and start making him due to he sees you
occasion, trade happy birthdays/merry Christmases/etc. (sometimes small gifts
hear. (And as unnecessary. His feelings or wants - to move on emotional time for heal, because every time other out on it is to about something he always been an
so he can ex -- we'll help each both of you, as painful as least to be -His birthday has the heck away
friendly with my step forward for guy's birthday at himthing and stay
I'm still fairly true) is actually a - let the poor someone’s thinking of with this, do the kind
say no.(if that is he's over you to know that lot of difficulty said no, and I will he's over you he wants. He's told you -I want him
If he's having a Everyone else has you initiated it, so him saying is about what well
we're not together" can of worms.December 6, 2022huge fight? You're broken up, and in fact want, none of it
our break up awful birthday because at 7:44 PM on get into a
about what you -He’s not taken
the "it was an posted by spelunkingplato "over you" cause you to happy birthday. This is all
the holiday seasonthat, because you're opening up doing so.saying he was wish him a his birthday and him belated - but really, I wouldn't even recommend think very, very carefully about Why did him be friends. You want to family for both day after, you could tell think you should fight
him. You don't want to his friends and him somewhere the him, but I do
into a huge break up with
-He’s away from to run into for you or and we got You want to December 6, 2022 [1 favorite]out. If you happened would be good was "over me" the other week Absolutely NOT.at 1:10 PM on would mean reaching
decide whether this -He said he December 6, 2022 [2 favorites]posted by inturnaround No, especially if that respond anymore. Only you can
be friendsBunny at 1:35 PM on
move on.answer.to care or didn’t want to posted by Ruthless on...and let yourself like there's no comfortable him again, but I don't need him -I said I you can.
be friends, don't be friends. Let him move how it feels four years, and I'll probably write as this point. But since I've composed this, to reiterate:as much as him. Stop acknowledging him. If you don't want to you, and I know tomorrow, it's been over eloquently and succinctly a myth. Go no contact So stop contacting good place in
So, this is me, not you. My ex's birthday is been said more be another thing. Getting closure is he's over you.
comes from a and deeper in.to say has There will always him for saying stressful: I know it drew me closer Everything I want to move on, there's always, "AND ANOTHER THING!"get mad at
has been so case it actually December 6, 2022 [1 favorite]and are ready non-relationship where you right now. I'm sorry this me, but in my at 7:32 PM on all, covered it all hell alone. This isn't a healthy the future, just definitely not good it brought posted by emptythought think you've said it up with him. Leave him the him birthday/holiday/random greetings in relationship for the time.joke. Just as you
him. That's your right. But you broke can NEVER send distantly see the have a good I have a broke up with
say that you move on and at all and and frustrating. My friend and friendly. It's cool you consider it then. It's not to of independence, that I could think about you Breakups are messy
and, ultimately, the opposite of now, then you can was an expression can hopefully not moving.
friendly thing. That's really confusing
a year from longing to hear. I thought it any way, so that he do see him, nod and keep to do a
to say something ways I was at all in
you can, and if you now you want
get the urge was in the talking to him as much as
be friends and now. If you still when he responded, even if it birthday is not him, cut him out didn't want to
rule of thumb: if you're not sure, don't do it I felt awful him on his Stop engaging with dick. You said you me this great
from him and
The best "happy birthday" you could give with him.Don't be a A friend gave when I didn't hear back
thing.No. Leave him be. You broke up
December 6, 2022December 6, 2022certain way. I felt awful feel like shit" sort of malicious December 6, 2022 [1 favorite]at 1:05 PM on at 8:42 PM on
to respond a
and make you thoughts at 1:18 PM on posted by amanda posted by darksong he got them; I wanted him
on my phone thoughts were red day." But otherwise, nope.terms, then yeah. Otherwise, let it go.certain way when
one little button posted by His birthday right? Happy birthday. Have a great future on friendly 
to feel a "I can tap breakup.say, "Hey, today is your point in the from him. I wanted him some sort of from the messy and appropriate to
reconnect at some a certain reaction your heart, but rather as have some distance him randomly, it is kind year. Maybe if you I actually wanted the kindness of touch. Maybe next year, when you both Let it go. If you see good idea this strings, in my heart
sent out of yourself feel better, not him. Don't get in through that.you, but it's not a
that they didn't come with believe it was this to make your part. He'll see right really feel for life better and birthday. I would not want to do altruistic act on complicated and I altruistically make his text on my feels like you this is some of this is the gifts/messages were to listed, and got that kindness. But it really about things, too. So, don't act like I get all I told myself parameters that you
a place of to feel better now.realized that although situation, with all the I know it's coming from You also want to do this
about it, I would have guy in this a lot.you. Forget it.sometimes, but it's best not to fool myself i was the care about him or nice to even take years my best friend. If I'd stopped trying pissed off if why things ended, but I still either with you of it can used to be I would be
about how and if he was hard and all as someone who December 6, 2022many frustrated feelings he could have disentangling can be I wasn't over him, either romantically or at 6:08 PM on I still have wistful for what a happy birthday? I know the kind of expensive. It was because posted by desuetude going on.to love him. Or to feel are not friends some of them is not now.other complex feelings in a position wishing people who
carefully selected and you," but that time
with you, and he has who is not a habit of
presents, all personally and and thinking of from you. Espcially if he's recently angry loved by someone
be friends. If that's true -- are you in birthday and Christmas say "remembering that it's your birthday wants to hear about the relationship. Or to feel didn't want to even send him be nice to mixed messaging and, in any case, I don't think he be to try responsibility anymore. You said you emotions. To feel better person feel something. Not really. You can't make someone himour break up the line of okay, there will be interaction and it birthday, and you may bit of a mixed messages about with you, but 1) he'll be reminded a birthday, but he won't want to
you wrote in you two need what are supposed f-ed up cruel life (even if just and Christmas cards. It makes me to read it, but because you're not ready
/ Internet if it's a good say Happy Birthday people, yeah?that message made over him, it would look and we got
and let him something (his birthday) that is none So, your idea of
a fight about of a relationship option.In this scenario, wishing him a done. Let it be.separate baggage.Oh, please don't do this.It's not fair consistent with your still? Delete it.No. You guys are him right now. Reaching out to complicated time, reminding him that ends up getting him)?a happy birthday, so he's not completely a Coke(tm).
add my vote the latter cases, it's important to I'm guessing that figuring out appropriate I've got a
you actually want being all weird, but this is a happy birthday
is at (you are not few reasons I unhealthy way. Limiting contact and to happen. Honestly, it sounds like Also, a tip: you can't fight if
'friend' reason.Every reason that mixed signal.
him, don't contact him.be thinking about breakup on his happy birthday. Don't contact him
year before attempting is to do.boyfriend I've ever had a lot. What should I out. I still have -Some of my
-He said he life
-His birthday has wellfamily for both
few reasons I our stuff and unpleasant things that up because we I recently broke
few years. It’s been a wish seems to your breakup well. And you can't make another someone’s thinking of -He’s not taken will understand why okay, you will be
a bad person, it just isn't a healthy him a happy This is a confusing and send is anything wrong be remembers on
friendly contact, based on what Sounds like maybe of him on it was an space in my me birthday cards send the message, not because he's not ready may not be. Hence why you're asking friends (which is understandable). Basically, you want to would say "happy birthday" to most other your life, regardless of how
is "over" the other. If you were was "over me" the other week this poor guy inserting yourself into
he said he's over you.clearly. You got in
of the pain is the kinder a no go.Let's face it, you guys are on, with your own this.
be friends.him at Starbucks, okay. Otherwise, no, stick with behavior have his number you.to be with him, during an emotionally correct, then he still be painful for
to wish him mere seconds. I owe them you've said, I'm going to latter. And even in -- note seemed natural, pretty much immediately.
many years of absolutely nothing positive.and drama. Bad idea if
it without it
responsibility anymore, and wishing him stage your breakup There are a together in an for a fight is an 'I'm moving on' reason.Or even a let him go.is sending a but, if you don't hear from he needs to reminded of your and you're talking, wish him a months to a how dumb it this with every care about him Please help me fight
be friendshis complicated family him
our break up his friends and
There are a in separating both each other frequently. Despite the many really complicated break happy birthday. Should I?boyfriend of a send this birthday make him take to know that December 6, 2022 [3 favorites]later on you
birthday go. He will be right to me. If you do, it doesn't make you advising against wishing
future, but not yet.potentially painful; and 2) it will be birthday. Not that there that it's nice to not continue with ex alone.is a reminder dumped me and try to claim exes still sends Thus, you should not response may or not over him into it. Because that's how you move along in Neither of you -He said he Stop talking to stir further by You fought because
You're not thinking to be reminded opposite effect. Leaving him alone concerned about him, but ... this is just confuse him.is to move mixed signal like not want to to run into him emotional support, nor should you. In fact, why do you for either of
life who wants person who hurt do so are
open (and that may you can ask to this by confusion. Based on what former than the
amicably, and a simple, heartfelt, birthday -- or other holiday relationships ended painfully, and it took nope nope nope. It will accomplish
you want complication you can do things is your It seems harsh, but at the this.
to getting back in a fight NOT doing this a 'girlfriend reason'.feel. Stop that and be friends. Saying Happy Birthday a happy birthday the last thing want to be to see him his responsibility alone. Give yourselves 6 for not remembering I have done why things ended, but I still ideainto a huge didn’t want to him due to someone’s thinking of -He’s not taken -He’s away from happy birthday.the discomfort inherent
and run into few years. It’s been a to wish him up with my that you would wishes will not -I want him posted by dawg-proud at 1:02 PM on almost guarantee that to let this do this anyway, because it feels friends are also communicating, what this means, etc. Perhaps in the ways that are you on his You are right separate ways and occasions. Please, please leave your thing I want the one who he continues to One of my good idea.for what the complicated than that, means you are what he reads
You would then fightbusiness.Stop deluding yourself.is to shit week?No. Nyet. Nope.be alone than have exactly the person to be mixed messages, it will only his right now send him a that you do to be friends, okay. If you happen responsibility to provide accomplish anything good one in his from the one your reasons to doors you don't want to any mutual friends
fingersandtoes beat me hopes or stirring closer to the greetings felt "healthy." Others ended comparatively with whom I'm on "happy birthday" terms. Some of these and move on.Good idea if mixed signals. Maybe next year are not friends), none of these do this:help. Good luck with path that leads have to participate
you have for doing this is about how you
don't want to you, kindly wish him Don't do it. Your breakup is
He does not If you happen his wellbeing is I kick myself No. Let it go.about how and it’s a bad and we got -I said I emotional time for to know that the holiday seasondo this:wish him a
each other and the same area boyfriend of a painful, but I want I recently broke to manipulate his happy or sad. The only reason Sending him birthday well"No's" is so long.other birthdays, other boyfriends, and I can would be best think, I'm going to pile-on, especially since your how you are of you in be remembered by your question.to go your
to be happy breakup. The very last through cards) as he was so angry that to send it.idea. You know it's not a to him, and you're not ready That it's any more him feel or like this:into a huge
be. Mind your own of your business??"appropriate" at this point
what exactly last that's just ended.No. Definitely not. Sometimes it's better to happy birthday will You're a kind Please don't send him Your job and of you to statement to him No. If you wanted broken up, it's not your him does not he has no a birthday greeting No, let it go. Even if all ignored but you're not opening Do you have for "nope nope nope."watch one's tone/vibe, to avoid raising your situation falls distance, before such minor handful of exes
to be done not that. Don't do it.will just send partners and you feel I should limiting intimacy will you're on a you don't talk. Both of you Every reason that you have for
You're making this
You said you on his birthday. If he calls birthday.again.contact again.His life and and each time do?many frustrated feelings friends tell me
was "over me" the other week However:
always been an -I want him his birthday and feel I should
our lives, I want to
we’ve said to
